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Even if things don't work out in the end *touch wood*, i know i will never regret this relationship. From this relationship i learn what love is. I used to think love is such a strong word. Is so difficult to say it to someone. Because i believe by saying "i love you" to someone it means you wants to be with him till the end of time. *okay a little exaggerating but yes, you get what i mean*
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Friends to Couple
We started out as lecture mates who dislike each other. To friends who are fine with each others. To good friends who advice each other on relationship problems. & then on one fine day he decided to ask me out for movie alone. (we usually hang out in a clique) At that point of time i didn't felt anything special actually. (Haha. Call me slow or whatever.) The movie "date" went well & he insisted to send me home that day. I felt a little weird but i thought he was just trying to be a gentleman so that went off my mind quickly. Subsequently he asked me out more often & was extra nice to me. I finally felt that there is something fishy about this & decided to ask him through a text. & he actually reply confessing that he likes me. I was a little stun when i receive the text & told him i need time to think about it. Eventually we got tgt.
Honeymoon period?
The first few months together was a horror, we quarrel almost every other day. Totally not like a normal couple. Usually the first few months is the honeymoon period but ours were the opposite.
Lucky for me, i met a super duper high tolerance guy. Things got better after we constantly talk things out.
The subsequent months were great. Actually getting better by the month. Then it came to the time that i start interning. I was so stressed and was constantly PMS-ing. My skin got bad at the same time. So bad that i couldn't bear to look back at the pictures taken then. That is when i finally realized he really am a gem. I'm not saying i didn't think he is great at first but it takes difficult times like that to realize how great the people around you are. He was there for me no matter how much i PMS. How much tantrum i threw. & to add on i was so ugly at that point of time. gosh, i would have slap me if i saw myself. Hahahaha.
Knowing that i wanna hide from the world, he drove me to my facial place, waited for me till it ends and drove me home. He encourages me everyday & i gradually got better. I couldn't imagine going through all these by myself. I could have never got better or maybe even get into depression.
& i have to emphasize that he was in the army at that period of time. Every weekend is basically his only 2 days to sleep at home & relax but he still drag himself up on a Saturday Morning to drive me to facial. I couldn't be more grateful. Really.
His NS days
I guess army actually taught us to treasure time we have together. Can't deny i am just like any other girl who gets upset when the bf just got into army. Especially during the first 2 weeks tekong days, gosh, it was a horror. Come to think about it, if i was that sad at that time, he must be feeling double the sadness or even triple.
That was our "stickiest" period in our r/s, every opportunity to meet, we will meet. & sometimes i feel bad for him because i know he needs time to be alone & rest too. I will always try to meet him in the late noon,
We hang out at his place very often. We will watch "Running Man" together and laze the whole day. But of course at times we will still dress up & have a date. Haha. But i am sincerely glad that we are of the same kind. Hahaha the kind who are totally fine with being a couch potato.
Things got tougher when he went into OCS. His training got tougher & his time for me got lesser. He has to go for overseas training twice, 3 weeks each. I hated OCS but at the same time am proud of him. & it was something he wanted so i just tried to be an understanding gf hahahaha. *self-praise* We smoothly got pass that phase. & i have to say I felt so touched when i saw him at his commissioning parade is like i have been through all these with him & finally saw him get what he want. Felt like a proud Mama. Hahahaha.
Working Life
Right now both of us is still at the comfortable & honeymoon period. & i hope it will continue being like that forever, Haha.
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Just my two cents worth of thoughts
A friend actually compared my r/s with hers & ask me why we always seems to be happy.
Just sharing my point of view, i always felt that a couple should learn to solve a problem in a day.
Don't ever cold war. That is just going to make things worse.
Learn to compromise each other, even during a quarrel. When your partner voice out his/her point of view, try to agree with some parts of it except it is totally absurd, which usually isn't the case. If both parties are willing to do this, sorting things out will be much easier. Because this will actually make your partner feel that you are being reasonable. & who would mind talking to someone reasonable right?
& never ever compare your own r/s with someone else. That is one of the worst thing you can do to ruin your r/s. Of cos every r/s is different because everyone is different. Just like don't expect your gf to be like VS models when you don't look like AF models. *you get what i mean right?*
Just sharing my point of view, i always felt that a couple should learn to solve a problem in a day.
Don't ever cold war. That is just going to make things worse.
Learn to compromise each other, even during a quarrel. When your partner voice out his/her point of view, try to agree with some parts of it except it is totally absurd, which usually isn't the case. If both parties are willing to do this, sorting things out will be much easier. Because this will actually make your partner feel that you are being reasonable. & who would mind talking to someone reasonable right?
& never ever compare your own r/s with someone else. That is one of the worst thing you can do to ruin your r/s. Of cos every r/s is different because everyone is different. Just like don't expect your gf to be like VS models when you don't look like AF models. *you get what i mean right?*
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Coming back to being in love.
Is the first time i ever felt that i want to be a better person for someone. (Exclude my family) I want to be the girl he loves forever. I want to be that person for him. I want to be the one who keeps him going during his difficult time. I want to be his lighthouse keeper.
